Monday, June 16, 2008

New, Improved Attitude!

Wow, it only took 2 days!

I'm seriously feeling pretty good at this point. The deal falling through really knocked me out; I alternated between the fetal and prone position for the better part of the day Saturday. Then Rich made a comment that made perfect sense and brought me back to reality.

He said that this has never been about finding our dream home. This has always been about getting Ethan into a city and a school that can properly address his multiple needs. And that dream doesn't have to change just because we didn't sell our house quickly and easily.

Stupid House! Stupid Inspections!

He's right. So we're looking at apartments soon and are keeping our fingers crossed that we can find something with a 6 month lease option. That will give us plenty of time to look at homes and make a good decision while we wait for this home to sell. It's not what we had envisioned, but then what in the world ever is?

Ethan will go to St. Rita. We will move to Cincinnati on a timeline that ensures his arrival on day one of preschool. I will not lose my mind in the process.


David said...

Heather...I love the new "tude". So great to look at the goal, and see that there are so many means of achieving that goa.
My little buddy Ethan will get the school to address his needs.
So happy you changed your attitude.
Good things happen to good people.

Mom to Toes said...

I am so glad the move is going on as planned (well... with the modifications.)

Rich is a good man. :)

Good luck tomorrow! I'll be thinking of you guys. Please let me know how it goes - you have my email. Feel free to vent away if things don't go well.

leahlefler said...

Oh, my! I didn't check your blog until today- I can't believe the deal fell through! You guys have a great attitude and are keeping focused on what is important. Still, I'm sending good house-selling vibes! And prayers for Ethan's meeting. I dread those meetings (even though ours are IFSP meetings at this point)!

slouching mom said...

ahh, such a healthy 'tude.

i'll be thinking of you tomorrow morning and hoping all goes as it should.

KC said...

Yes- you'll do what you need to do for him. And, it will all work out in the end, the way it is supposed to.

(and you're burying the statue now, right?)

jen said...

you go, girl.

Kyla said...

I thought about suggesting something like that...but then I didn't. LOL.

Good luck with the IEP. I'm still upset at how they've treated you guys!

Anonymous said...

Gather up all written info on the legal rights of your child and a bunch of little sticky notes. I mean any handbooks they've given you all the way up to any law books you can scrounge. Mark as many points as possible with stickies protruding from the pages, preferably with notations on the stickies. Wear professional looking clothes. Bring info on the specific disability and distribute it without asking permission. Take control of the meeting as soon as possible. DO NOT CRY. Your attitude should be polite but not particularly warm. Of course, your best bet is to take a lawyer and an advocate, both with bulging briefcases. Just remember that you are right, they are wrong, and don't sign anything you do not agree with. Threaten an appeal-they have to pay and they hate that. Do not tell them you are moving if it is out of their juristiction. They'll refuse to do anything and you'll have to start again when you move. The IEP you move with stays in place until the new place has a meeting. Be strong, and don't let the bastards grind you down.

Hetha said...

Wow! I love the advice anonymous. Thanks for sharing!

Eileen said...

I am sorry the deal fell through, but I love how you are still moving forward. Ethan is the most important part of this whole process and a temp. apartment sounds like the perfect solution. Move forward. Don't look back. Your house will sell but more importantly Ethan will be in a school where he will take off (in all areas).

Things may not go as planned, but sometimes new plans are better.

You two are the BEST parents!!!


Beck said...

It's amazing what a bit of time can do, eh?

Eileen said...

Did I miss something about the IEP meeting? Did it happen yet? How did it go? Let me know if you need input, as far as schools go. Remember you have the power, don't let the team intimidate you!

Aliki2006 said...

Good attitude! I'm so sorry the deal fell through, but imagine how much less stressful it will be to look for a house while already there, and moved in.

Sarah said...

You have a great hubby there! It will work out for you guys, you have Ethan's best interest in mind. Wonderful parents!

Loudest Mom said...


So sorry to hear- I would have reacted the same way- and hopefully bounced back the same way :)

Great perspective from Rich!

Did you already have the IEP? How'd it go? If you haven't had it, Good luck, we're thinking of you all :)

La La said...

Excellent attitude adjustment. It inspires me. I'm not so quick to make this type of shift. I sulk and moan and weep and all that stuff.

I'm glad you have Rich, and I'm glad you will be on schedule no matter what the circumstance so that Ethan will get to school on time.